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Topics Wendy Answers Questions About
Neurodivergent Women
ADHD • Autism • Executive Function • Special Needs • Time Blindness
Women in Life Transitions
Separation • Divorce • Fresh Start • Uncoupling • Moving • Starting Over
Senior Women
Aging in Place • Downsizing • Safety & Accessibility
Military and Veteran Women
PTSD • Reintegration • Deployments
Everyday Decluttering
Chronic Disorganization • Hoarding Tendencies • Depression • Overwhelm • Getting Started
Recent Ask Wendy Answers
How do I tell my child about my ADHD diagnosis without feeling ashamed?
Reader Question:
Wendy, I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and I’m embarrassed to tell my child. I don’t want them to look at me differently or worry about me. How do I talk to them about it without feeling ashamed?
Wendy’s Answer:
This is such a great question and you are not alone. Many parents feel unsure about how much to share. But here’s the truth: Your diagnosis isn’t something to hide. It’s something that can strengthen your relationship.
When I was diagnosed with ADD as an adult, I felt the same fear. And when my son was diagnosed with ADHD, that fear doubled — not because of him, but because I didn’t want him to see my struggles. But the moment I shared my story with him, everything changed. Here’s what I learned:
1. Kids don’t need perfect parents — they need honest ones
Your child won’t see you as “less than.” They’ll see you as human.
2. Vulnerability builds trust
Opening up shows them it’s safe to open up, too.
3. Sharing helps them understand themselves
If your child is neurodivergent, your story becomes a roadmap. If they’re not, your story becomes a window into empathy.
4. A diagnosis does not define you — or them
It simply gives language to experiences you’ve always had. You’re not creating fear by sharing your truth but connection. You’re doing a brave thing. And your child will feel that bravery.
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