Ask Wendy

Real Decluttering Questions. Compassionate, Judgment-Free Answers.

Your virtual decluttering advice column for women navigating neurodivergence, life transitions, and aging.

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Hey there, friend. 👋🏽
I’m Wendy Zanders, Your Declutter Coach, and I know decluttering can feel overwhelming — especially when you’re navigating ADHD, Autism, depression, grief, divorce, caregiving, or major life changes.

Take a deep breath. You’re in the right place 💙

Here in Ask Wendy, you’ll find real, judgment-free answers to the questions people ask every day — from “Where do I even start?” to the deeper challenges that show up in our homes, routines, and daily life.

This isn’t about perfection.
It’s about understanding why clutter shows up and learning gentle, realistic ways to create systems that support your brain, your season of life, and your energy.

Whether you’re a neurodivergent adult, a parent, an active senior, or someone starting over, I’m here to help you Simplify. Organize. Thrive. — one step at a time.

Wendy Zanders, Professional Organizer, smiling warmly and welcoming visitors to simplify and organize their homes.

Browse Ask Wendy Topics

Explore common decluttering challenges faced by women navigating neurodivergence, life transitions, aging, military life, and everyday overwhelm.
Choose a topic below to read real questions from women just like you.

🧠 Neurodivergent Women

Support for women navigating ADHD, Autism, and Executive-Function challenges.

  • ADHD

  • Autism

  • Executive Function

  • Special Needs

  • Time Blindness

🦋 Life Transitions for Women

Support for women rebuilding after major life changes.

👵 Senior Women

Guidance for women aging in place safely and comfortably.

  • Aging in Place

  • Safety & Accessibility

  • Downsizing

  • Fall Prevention

🎖 Military & Veteran Women

Support for military and veteran women navigating change and transition.

  • PTSD

  • Reintegration

  • Deployments

  • PCS / PCSing

💻 Virtual Decluttering Coaching

Common challenges impacting daily life and home organization.

  • Chronic Disorganization

  • Hoarding Tendencies

  • Depression

  • Emotional Clutter

  • Body Doubling & Accountability

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You’re supported.
You’re not alone.

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