Ask Wendy

Your Virtual Decluttering Advice Column for Neurodivergents, Active Seniors & Those in Life Transitions

Real Questions. Compassionate Answers.

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Hey there, friend. 👋🏽
I’m Wendy Zanders, Your Declutter Coach, and I know decluttering can feel like a mountain — especially if you’re navigating ADHD, Autism, Depression/Overwhelm, supporting a Neurodivergent child, going through divorce or major life changes, or you are an active senior who wants to remain independent and age in place.

Take a deep breath. You’re in the right place. 💙

Here in Ask Wendy, you’ll find real, judgment-free answers to the questions people ask every day — from “Where do I even start decluttering?” to the deeper challenges that show up inside your home, routines, and daily life.

This isn’t about perfection. It’s about understanding the why and how behind the clutter so you can create systems that support your brain, your family, and your season of life.

Whether you’re a Neurodivergent adult, a parent raising a Neurodivergent child, an Active Senior, or someone going through a life transition, I’m here to help you Simplify, Organize & Thrive — one step at a time.

Wendy Zanders, Professional Organizer, smiling warmly and welcoming visitors to simplify and organize their homes.

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Explore common challenges faced by women in the Neurodivergent, Life Transition, Senior, Military, and Everyday Decluttering communities. Click a topic to read questions from women just like you.

🧠 Neurodivergent Women

Support for women navigating ADHD, Autism, and Executive Function challenges.

  • ADHD

  • Autism

  • Executive Function

  • Special Needs

  • Time Blindness

🦋 Life Transitions for Women

Support for women rebuilding after life changes.

  • Separation

  • Divorce

  • Fresh Start

  • Uncoupling

  • Moving

  • Starting Over

👵 Senior Women

Guidance for women aging in place safely and comfortably.

  • Aging in Place

  • Safety & Accessibility

  • Downsizing

  • Fall Prevention

🎖 Military & Veteran Women

Support for military and veteran women navigating change and transition.

  • PTSD

  • Reintegration

  • Deployments

  • PCS / PCSing

💻 Virtual Decluttering Coaching

Common challenges impacting daily life and home organization.

  • Chronic Disorganization

  • Hoarding Tendencies

  • Depression

  • Emotional Clutter

  • Body Doubling & Accountability

🏡 Homeschooling Moms

Support for homeschoolers navigating routines, learning, and life skills at home.

  • Homeschooling

  • Life Skills

  • Routines & Structure

  • Executive Function

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